You As CEO of Your Shame and Joy Company

Let’s explore more specific pathways to allow this dancing with the dark Goddess to happen. We are CEO’s of our Shame and Joy, through using Creativity, Externalization, and Over-rides.  As Natalie Rogers, pioneer of the expressive arts movement said about creativity, “Using the expressive arts helps clients identify and be in touch with feelings, explore unconscious material, release energy, gain insight, solve problems and discover intuitive, mythological, and spiritual dimensions of the self.” The C can also stand for Connection, which is more authentic through healing our wounds, Compassion, which is engendered in the process and Courage, which we use to walk into the dreaded dark places of shame. {I was fortunate to take a training with Natalie Rogers].  “E” … Continue reading

My Friend Shame

Many moons ago, Tomar Levine, a hugely encouraging coach, who had cheered me on to do work about shame and joy, asked me in her New York grounded way, how I see shame as a friend, or as a “dark inner Goddess,” as I’d written about in a blog. I appreciate that she gave me a chance to elaborate: I will illustrate how I see shame as a friend with this story. I once met a woman who had never had a friend before, Linda, who was a light-skinned African American living in Monterey, California. One evening I invited her for a sleep-over and as we laid side by side in my bed, I told her honestly all about experiences … Continue reading

Shame Shifting Tips: Befriending Shame, Your New Ally

   *These tips are quite powerful. What shame would you like lightened in your life? Would you like to stand taller and straighter and more confident? Would you like to sing with full voice your true notes and desires? I recommend regularly doing one or more shame-shifting exercise to companion and re-frame shame patterns that have been with you for years. Shame Shifting Tip #1  Have a “Date-Night” With Yourself, At the Mirror Have a “date-night” type of conversation with yourself, at your mirror. Like all close relationships, your friendship with yourself needs time for listening and seeing. As you can’t see yourself, the mirror can help out. You receive this precious, authentic bio-feedback by seeing your facial expressions, and … Continue reading